jacaylka lamaanaha


 jacaylka lamaanaha

Jacaylku waa dareen adag oo qoto dheer oo ka dhex dhaca dadka ka dib soo jiidashada, naxariis iyo feejignaan. Jacaylku wuxuu dhex mari karaa ragga, asxaabta, qoyska, xayawaanka, ama waxyaabaha. Jacaylku wuxuu qofka ka dhigaa mid faraxsan, qanacsan, daacad ah. Jacaylku wuxuu leeyahay heerar kala duwan laga soo bilaabo soo jiidashada ilaa ka qeybgalka xasilloonida. Jacaylku wuxuu leeyahay qeexitaanno kala duwan oo luqadda, nafta, falsafadda, iyo diinta. ¹ 


Calaamadaha lagu garto jacaylka


Calaamadaha jacaylku waa astaamo ka muuqda qof dareemaya jacayl qof kale. Astaamahani waxay noqon karaan af, jir ama dhaqan. Calaamadaha caanka ah ee jacaylka ayaa ah: ² 


Sii wadida fikirka ku saabsan qofka la jecel yahay iyo kan dee isagu waa

Farxad, qanacsanaan iyo wada noolaansho gacaliyaha.

- Si qoto dheer u eegida indhaha gacaliyaha iyo dhoola cadeynta joogtada ah.

Xiisad, walaac iyo cabsi laga qabo luminta ama khalkhal gelinta jeceylka.

U qaadista qofka la jecel yahay iyo ka qeybqaadashada noloshiisa iyo qorshihiisa.

Inaad siiso karaamo iyo dulqaad farxadda gacaliyaha.

- Isbeddelka ku yimid shakhsiyadda astaamaha qofka jecel inuu la qabsado kan la jecel yahay.

Jacaylka iyo hal-abuurka muujinta dareenka kuwa la jecel yahay.



calaamadaha jacaylka ninka waa: 

Nin jacayl ku doib dhabayo ayaa mar walba lagu yaqaanaa inuu muujiyo dhiniciisa daciifka ah ee dareenka leh tusana  haweeneyda uu jecel yahay.

jacaylka ninka ayaa raadinaya qaabab cusub oo uu waqti ula qaato haweeneyda uu jecel yahay.

Ninka jacaylku asiibay ayaa waqti badan siiya haweeneyda uu jecel yahay kana daaha howlaha kale.

Ninka jacaylka qaba  wuxuu ka hadlayaa haweeneyda uu aad u jecel yahay waana ku faanaa.

Nin jacaylku hauo  wuxuu muujinayaa dulqaad iyo raaxo marka dadka uusan jeclayn uu la fadhiisto haddii ay u dhowdahay haweeneyda uu jecel yahay.

Ninka jacaylka qaba ayaa sameeya wax kasta oo awoodiisa ah si uu u qalbi qaboojiyo haweeneyda uu jecel yahay oo uu doonayo inuu fududeeyo nolosheeda.

Ninka ayaa daneeya faahfaahinta ugu yar ee haweeneyda uu jecel yahay oo waxa uu baaraa waxa ay jeceshahay iyo waxa ay neceb tahay.

Ninka jecel qalanjo wuxuu doonayaa inuu ogaado qoyska haweeneyda uu jecel yahay oo uu xiriir wanaagsan la yeesho.

Ninka jecel wuxuu doonayaa inuu ogaado aragtida haweeneyda uu jecel yahay arrimaha noloshiisa iyo go'aanadiisa wuxuuna tixgeliyaa dareenkeeda.

Nin jacayl haleelo ayaa amaana haweeneyda uu had iyo jeer jecel yahay una sheego sida ay u qurux badan tahay, caqli badan tahay uguna muhiimsan tahay isaga.

Ninka jacaylka la ildarab wuxuu had iyo jeer eegaa haweeneyda uu jecel yahay oo uusan indhihiisa u xirin.


Calaamadaha jacaylka haweeneyda


waa astaamo muujinaya dareenkeeda shucuureed iyo jireed ee ku wajahan isaga, taas oo laga yaabo inay caddaato ama qarsoon tahay iyada oo loo eegayo shaqsiyadeeda iyo dhaqankeeda. Qaar ka mid ah calaamadahan ayaa kala ah:


Ogaanshaha wax kasta oo ku saabsan gacaliyaha: Haweeneyda si daacad ah u jecel waxay raadineysaa inay ogaato dhammaan faahfaahinta ku saabsan ninka ay jeceshahay, sida nooca shaqadiisa, xiriirka uu la leeyahay qoyskiisa iyo asxaabtiisa, wixii uu soo dhaafay iyo mustaqbalkiisa, danahiisa iyo hiwaayadaha, waxa uu xiiseeyo iyo waxa dhibaya. Waxay sidoo kale isku dayeysaa inay la wadaagto danahiisa oo ay ku taageerto riyadiisa.

Xiriirka maqalka ee uu la leeyahay gacaliyaha: Haweenku waxay kordhiyaan wada xiriirka ay la leeyihiin ninka ay si joogto ah u jecel yihiin, ha ahaato iyagoo taleefan ugu yeeraya ama u diraya qoraal, maqal ama farriin fiidiyow ah. Waxay sidoo kale toos u eegtaa isaga indhihiisa markay la hadasho, si daacad ah ayey ugu qoslaysaa, waxay ku qoslaysaa kaftanka, mararka qaarna way ku dhacdaa isaga.

Ducada: Naagtu wax badan bay u bixisaa ninka ay jeceshahay, ha ahaato waqtigeeda, dadaalkeeda, lacagta, ama xitaa damacyadeeda. Waxay rabtaa inay ka dhigto mid faraxsan oo qanacsan, oo ay ka dhigto mudnaantiisa mudnaanteeda, oo ay garab istaagto waqtiyada adag, iyo in la cafiyo tallaabooyinkiisa iyo khaladaadkiisa.

Dulqaadashada: Haweenku way cafiyaan ninka ay aad u jecel yihiin, oo uma hayaan xanaaq ama nacayb. Way fahamsan tahay duruufahiisa iyo niyaddiisa, si dhakhso leh ayey uga gudubtaa kala duwanaanshaheeda isaga, mana la xiriirto arrimo yar yar oo saameyn ku yeelan kara xiriirkooda. Waxay kaloo isku dayeysaa inay xalliso wixii ka soo baxay xiriirkooda haddii khilaaf weyn ka dhexeeyo.

Mahadnaq: Haweenka waxaa lagu yaqaanaa inay usoo bandhigaan jecelkooda bogaadin iyo amaan badan, ha ahaato qaabkiisa, akhlaaqdiisa, awoodiisa ama guulaha uu gaadhay. Waa nasiib wacan helitaanka gabadh ku jecel.


Sida loogu soo bandhigo jacelka qof aanad aqoon

Si aad ugu muujiso jacaylkaaga qof aan ku aqoon, waxaad raaci kartaa qaar ka mid ah tallaabooyinka soo socda: ³ 


Ugu soo bandhig si amaan ah oo daacadnimo ah, sida: Waan jeclahay sida aad u fikirto, ama waxaad tahay qof caan ah oo hal abuur leh, ama waxaan jeclahay waxa heerka aad gaadhay.

 Iskuday inaad ola xiriirto si joogto ah oo xiiso leh: dirista qoraalka ama farriimaha codka, ama ugu yeerista inuu hubiyo isaga, ama ku casuumto markuu u baxo socod ama makhaayad.


xiisaha noloshiisa, fikradaha iyo riyooyinkiisa, sida: weydiinta maalintiisa iyo dhibaatooyinkiisa, adiga oo kala tashanaya go'aannadaada, ama ka taageeraya gaarista himilooyinkiisa.


Sii kalsoonidaada sida: eeg indhihiisa marka aad la hadlaysid, adiga oo si daacad ah ugu dhoola cadeynaya, ama taabashada gacantiisa ama garabka si fudud uga taabanaya.


U dir hadiyado iyo hadiyado kala duwan oo muujinaya jacaylkaaga, sida: ubax, buug uu jecel yahay inuu akhriyo, ama silsilad magaciisu ku xardhandhay.


Ka faa'iidayso munaasabadaha gaarka ah si aad u aqoonsato jacaylkaaga, sida: Kirismaska, Maalinta Jacaylka, ama xusuusta qofka aad is barateen. Qorista farriin warqad ah oo xambaarsan ereyo jacayl daacad ah oo qurux badan, oo u dir isaga si qarsoodi ah ama hab toos ah.


kuwano waa qaar ka mid ah siyaabaha aad ugu sheegi karto jacaylkaaga qof aan ku aqoon. 


Soo celinta jacaylka burrburay


Si aad u xalliso xiriirkaaga burburay, waxaad raaci kartaa qaar ka mid ah talooyinka soo socda: ⁴


Go'aaminta sababaha iyo xididdada cilad-xumada xiriirka, taas oo noqon karta natiijada isfaham la'aanta, khiyaanada, dayaca, isgaarsiinta la'aanta, is-waafajinta, isbeddelada shaqsiyeed, ama cadaadis dibadeed.


Jooji inaad waxyeello badan keento, adoo ka fogaanaya dabeecadaha waxyeelada leh iyo burburka leh, sida: eedeeynta, eedaynta, dhaleeceynta, qaylada, rabshadaha, ka bixitaanka, ama khiyaanada.⁵


 Balanqaadka labada dhinac inay dib u habeyn ku sameeyaan xiriirka isla markaana ay ka shaqeeyaan sidii loo horumarin lahaa, iyagoo muujinaya rabitaan iyo sida ay tahay in  lagu xalliyo dhibaatooyinka, laga gudbo wixii la soo dhaafay, iyo dib u dhiska kalsoonida iyo jacaylka.⁶


Hagaajinta wada xiriirka idinka dhexeeya labadiinaba, adoo si daacad ah oo hufan uga hadlaya dareenkaaga, baahiyahaaga iyo waxyaabaha aad ka fileyso, dhegeysiga si taxaddar leh iyo fahamka waxa dhinaca kale leeyahay, iyo inaad ra'yigaaga si xushmad iyo tixgelin leh u muujiso.


Weydiiso caawimaad khabiir ama lataliye nafsi haddii loo baahdo, si aad u hesho aragti dhexdhexaad ah iyo talo waxtar leh si aad uga adkaato dhibaatooyinka carqaladeeya dib-u-habeynta xiriirkaaga.⁷

Muujinta is-qadarin midba midka kale, adoo ku amaanaya tayadaada, guulaha iyo dadaalkaaga, oo aad midba midka kale uga mahadceliyo waxkasta oo uu ku sameeyo farxaddooda, oo uu midba midka kale u muujiyo xiisaha iyo qiimaha.


Dib-u-habeynta iftiinka jacaylka idinka dhexeeya labadiina, adoo sameynaya waxyaabo kaa dhigaya inaad dareentaan soo jiidasho iyo wada noolaansho midba midka kale uu ku soo dhawaado, sida: waqti badan inaad wada qaataan howlaha wadajirka ah ee aad kuwada raaxaysataan ama dib u cusbooneysiinta xusuusta farxadda leh ee aad hore ula noolaydeen Ama beddel hadiyadaha, ubaxyada iyo farriimaha saameynta leh.⁸

Ixtiraamka xadka iyo asturnaanta labadiinaba, adoo u oggolaanaya midba midka kale inuu haysto meel ku filan oo uu ku nasto, ka fikiro oo ku horumariyo, oo uusan faragalin ku sameyn arrimaha shaqsiyeed ama xulashooyinka isaga oo aan fasax laga helin⁹.


kuwani waa talo bixinno kaa caawin kara inaad hagaajiso xiriirkaaga jabay. 


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