Calaamadaha lagu garto in xaaskaagu ku khiyaanaysay


Calaamadaha lagu garto in xaaskaagu ku khiyaanaysay


Waan ka xumahay inaan maqlo inaad ka walwalsan tahay khiyaanada suurtagalka ah ee naagtaada. Taasi waa inay noqotaa mid xanuun badan oo murugo kuu leh.


Sida laga soo xigtay ilo qaar, qaar ka mid ah calaamadaha khiyaanada guurka waxaa ka mid ah ¹ ² ³:


La'aanta xiriir ama xiriir adiga kula leedahay.


Hypervigilance ama cabsi adiga kugu xeeran, ama sirta xad dhaafka ah ee ku saabsan taleefankooda, kumbuyuutarkooda, ama halka ay ku sugan yihiin.


Su'aalo aan caadi ahayn ama kugu eedeynaya inaad khiyaameyso ama aad tahay mid aan la aamini karin.


cadaawad adiga kaa dhan, ama kugu eedeeya xumaantooda.


shucuur la'aan xaggaga, ama aan muujin wax qoomamo ah ama naxariis darro ah haddii la wajaho.


Xiise la’aan, howlahaaga, ama qorshayaashaada mustaqbalka.


isfaham la'aan sida beenta, canaad, buuq, muran, ama diidmada.


● Mar dambe ha i dhihin "Waan ku jeclahay" ama muujin la'aanta kalgacal ama qadarin.


luqada jirka sida isbeddelada muuqaalka, nadaafadda, ama dhaqanka galmada ⁴


Si kastaba ha noqotee, calaamadahan ma aha kuwo la isku raacsan yahay waxaana laga yaabaa inay leeyihiin sharraxaad kale. Sida kaliya ee lagu ogaan karo hubaal haddii naagtaada ay ku khiyaanaysay waa inaad lahadasho iyada si daacad ah oo xushmad leh, oo weydiiso inay runta kuu sheegto. Waxa kale oo laga yaabaa inaad rabto inaad caawimaad xirfadeed ka raadsato daaweeye ku takhasusay cilmiyada khiyaanada. Waxay kaa caawin karaan inaad la tacaasho dareenkaaga, si wax ku ool ah ula xiriirto naagtaada, oo ay go'aan ka gaaraan talaabooyinka xiga ee la qaadayo.


Habka loola tacaalo khiyaanada


Xanuunka iyo  khiyaanada ma fududa, laakiin waa suurtagal in laga foojignaado. Halkan waxaa ah talooyin kaa caawin kara ¹ ² ³ ⁴ ⁵:


hubinta khiyaanada iyo sida ay kuu saameysay. Ha diidin ama ha yareynin dareenkaaga, laakiin isku day inaad magacowdo oo aad uga falceliso qaabab caafimaad qaba.


ha qaadin tallaabooyin ka Fiirsi la'aan ah oo wax u dhimaya naftaada ama kuwa kale. Ha ku dhaqaaqin aargudasho, xanaaq, ama dambi, laakiin waqti qaado si aad isu dejiso oo aad si caqli gal ah uga fikirto.


Ka shaqee cadaynta khiyaanada xawaarahaaga. Ha ku degdegin naftaada si aad u saamaxdo ama u cafiso, laakiin u oggolow naftaada inaad murugooto oo aad ka shaqeyso dhaawacyada.


La tasho qof aad ku kalsoon tahay kaas yaa ku taageeri kara oo ku dhageysan kara. Tani waxay noqon kartaa saaxiib, xubin qoyska ka mid ah, ama daaweeye. Hadalku wuxuu kaa caawin karaa inaad ka baxdo shucuurtaada, aad hesho aragti, oo aad xal u hesho.


Tababbarka is-daryeelidda adiga oo daryeela caafimaadkaaga jidheed iyo maskaxda. Si fiican wax u cun, si fiican u seexo, jimicsi, is deji, oo samee waxyaabo kaa farxiya. Is-daryeelku wuxuu kaa caawin karaa inaad la tacaasho walwalka oo aad kor u qaaddo kalsoonidaada.


Naftaada ka badbaadi qofka ku khiyaaneeyey, haddii ay suurtagal tahay. Waxaad u baahan kartaa masaafad iyo xuduudo si aad naftaada u ilaaliso oo aad u bogsato. Waxaad sidoo kale xaddidi kartaa soo-gaadhistaada macluumaadka ku saabsan warbaahinta bulshada ama asxaabta labada dhinac ah.


Cafiska baro, hadaad diyaar u tahay. Cafis micnaheedu maahan in la aqbalo ama la iloobo khiyaanada, laakiin iska daa xanaaqa iyo cadhada badan. Cafis ayaa kaa caawin kara inaad bogsato oo aad noloshaada sii wadato.


fikir ka qaado wixii aad ka baratay khiyaanada iyo sida aad uga kori karto. Waxaad ka heli kartaa aragtiyo cusub oo ku saabsan naftaada, qiyamkaaga, baahiyahaaga, iyo waxyaabaha aad ka fileyso. Waxaad sidoo kale heli kartaa habab cusub oo lagula tacaali karo caqabadaha lana hagaajiyo xiriirkaaga.


Waxaan rajeynayaa in talooyinkaan ay adiga ku caawinayaan. Fadlan xusuusnow in la-qabsashada khiyaanada ay tahay geedi socod waqti iyo dulqaad leh. Kali ma tihid, waxaana jira rajo bogsashada iyo soo kabashada.


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³ "Betrayal Trauma: Signs and How to Start Healing" - Healthline. (https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/betrayal-trauma).

⁴ "How to Deal With Betrayal in a Relationship "- Verywell Mind. (https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-deal-with-betrayal-in-a-relationship-6361199).

⁵ "Betrayal Trauma: Causes, Symptoms, Impact, and Coping" - Verywell Mind. (https://www.verywellmind.com/betrayal-trauma-causes-symptoms-impact-and-coping-5270361).